"A moment of patience in a moment of anger prevents a thousand moments of regret."
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***Acknowledging the pain and giving compassion allows the emotion to dissipate and release. Negative emotions occur to let us know that we have an unmet need. They are there to call us to action to get the need met. When we listen and offer compassion, the emotion has done it's job and can then dissolve and release.
Notice how much calmer you feel just by doing this first step!!!
**This first step can sometimes require deep meditation. It may take a while but it's well worth it!
Now it's time to address the part of you that may still be hashing and re-hashing or feeling upset by things.
"The part of you that keeps thinking about the situation, that's maybe feeling uncomfortable about your reactions, what is that part of you feeling and needing?
Example: In the instance with my son, afterward, I was feeling discouraged, sad, disappointed. I really needed to have responded in a compassionate and understanding way and it hurts my heart as a mother that I didn't.
Place your palm on the center of your chest while tapping the back of your hand between the ring finger and pinky just like you did in step 1.
Think of the other person involved...
In the moment things got out of hand and they said or did what they did.... what can you guess they might have been feeling or needing?
Doing this exercise helps you to unplug, to step back and look at things differently.
It is how you can get distance and take yourself out of it so it no longer feels so personal. When we take it personal, we lose power and stay sucked into the mess.
(which means we'll most likely repeat it at some point..)
This allows the situation to keep draining a messing with us.
When you can break it down and see that whatever people do or don't do is about them and their own pain, it allows you to stay strong, compassionate, and power-ful. You can find a way to stay centered and calm no matter what storms are blowing around you.
Step 4: Unplug!!! My favorite! :)
Visualize yourself and the whole situation.
Imagine literally unplugging your energy from the whole thing. Just like unplugging a power cord.
Say the following affirmation. (It's Louise Hay's. I love it, it just works!)
"Out of this whole situation, only good will come. Everything is being resolved and healed for the Highest good of all involved."
Take a deep breath and let it all go.
I know this seems time consuming but you'll be amazed at how much better you feel. How much better you sleep after working a situation through this way.
Your mind automatically just relaxes and moves on. It's the best feeling!
Stressful confrontations are the kinds of things that block joy, peace and love from our lives all the time! So why hold on to it? You deserve calm and peace, clear focus for your life and those you love not hashing some conflict over and over right?
Here's to more peace, happiness and good sleep! Hugs. :)
P.S. Sometimes we can be tied super tight to a painful situation. Especially when it concerns family such as divorce or other pressing conflicts. These kinds of situations can be difficult to navigate and clear on your own because they contain so many old and hidden issues.
If you're struggling to heal and recover from something like this, please consider scheduling some healing sessions for yourself! They make all the difference I promise!!!
Below is a little more information that I hope you will find helpful. Hugs!
How to know if a private session would be beneficial right now:
Emotional Clearing sessions with me are about releasing the old stuff, the mounting stress that's weighing you down.
It's about resolving the issues around situations and challenges so you can see through the fog and overwhelm and find your way through it.
Energy therapy is similar to traditional counseling except it incorporates physical components to help relieve the tension and ache in the body.
When you're feeling tense and agitated, upset and overwhelmed with someone or something... you feel that tension and discomfort in your body.
These techniques help address the emotional stuff by working to release it physically, emotionally and mentally. It's a huge relief. Like taking off a heavy coat.
Once you do that, the situations that normally cause stress and upset no longer bother you. You can handle them with ease and move forward.